We often convince ourselves that the right time to get back on track or dial things in to make the changes we would like to do, is when the time is right. I have been guilty in the past of planning 1 month of extreme dieting when I know there are no birthday parties, or weddings, or long weekends. And the thing I have learned that I would like you to remember is this: When you plan for perfection, the tiniest smallest challenge and deviation from the plan you have, is enough to put you right back at zero. (Actually, it will put you under zero, because not only will you break all your goals and return to the same old lifestyle, but this time you will have a feeling of defeat and self doubt).
There is no perfect time, and it has happened to me while getting back to the fitness lifestyle after the Spain vacation we have been talking about in this blog series. The #workouts have been hard, but there has been no compromise with that. Workouts have been consistent. I have swapped and changed what I have needed to, but working out fuels my passions and motives, and is a necessary mental break.
Food has not been as perfect as I would like though. After 3 days of good eating, a little fasting, and a very very brief vegan adventure, the weekend came along. After a friday of clean eating, my relatives invited me to dinner so I could tell them all about our trip. I ate as clean as I could at the restaurant, but after 2 glasses of wine (my excuse was that I needed to relax after getting the kids showered and dressed), I ended up having more dessert than I had planned. It was almost déjà vu the next day, because it was Valentines, and after a day of cleating eating again, dinner came along and so did wine, this time a lot more wine, and an unnecessary before bed snack. Sunday was perfect in terms of nutrition and exercise, but talking about challenges, it was carnival and Tuesday was a day off from work. So, of course, Monday night my wife and I decided to go out by ourselves and relive part of our trip, with wine.
OK, you get the idea. I had focused on getting back on track after 12 days of vacation, and it seemed quite logical that 12 days of being lenient was enough, and the motivation to feel and perform better would keep me on track on the comeback. But challenges happened. Family, long weekend, my own mind. It never ends, but that is life, and now I am informed and prepared.
The time will never be perfect. But I have eaten well every single day, except some dinners. I have worked out almost every day (except the scheduled rest days), and I am enjoying every single moment of it. I would love to be in perfect shape by tomorrow, and I would love to have no urges for food or wine, but we know that is impossible.
It’s about balance, but it’s also about commitment and ultimately leaning that balance towards where your goals can prevail. Sometimes the balance will be leaning towards vacation mode, sometimes the balance will be leaning to health most of the day and then give a little for dinner, and sometimes we just need to step in and tilt it towards the #health and fitness lifestyle. It is a lifestyle and a journey. Just focus on your goal, on what motivates you, and the reason you want to be what you envision, and it will give you the energy for greatness, the majority of the time, and slowly but surely, you will reach your goals. Just make sure to catch yourself and step in when that balance tries to move you away from your goals.